Thursday, April 19, 2007

Don't let your kids be the next troubled poor soul

More shocking details may be revealed from the Virginia Tech killer as newsreporters unfold the life of the horrifying troubled soul.

The video he sent was the shocking new information about this guy. He WANTED to be heard, worldwide. But when he was given opportunities to talk to his classmates, all he gives is one word answer. Everyone knows he is a deeply trouble psycho kid. Yet no one is able to help him.

His English professor offered to teach him one to one. Good. He was in psychiatrist hospital. Good. Yet that didn't prevent it.

He could have provided one of the "hundred billion reason" to prevent the rampage. Unfortunately he had the wrong zip code.

What I am really afraid of, this is tip of iceberg. The extreme introverted pyscho minds out there may copy this, or vent out the angers in their own way.

Unfortunately we are quite helpless against terrors like this.

I am no psychologist or psychiatrist, but I am absolutely sure he did not have a pleasant childhood. His parents may have neglected him, or he may be bullied or abused. He may be pushed too hard to do well in academics. He may be in a broken family. Who knows. We will know more as the media learn more. Such a child is largely the parents fault.

His disturbing video revealed he hated the rich with Mercedes. Did anyone tell him: he CAN become one driving a Mercedes if he knows how earn good money. Part of becoming rich is having ability to get along with people. With such personality he is not so likely to get rich. By the way, why did he attend a college with wealthy kids?

His English speaking ability is good. Better than many immigrants.

This perhaps means he works hard to fit into the American mainstream. He also majored in English, another hint at he trying to be a "true American"? This is atypical for Asian Americans, where most go for math and science and medical. What did he want to do with a English degree? What does he enjoy about studying English? I'd like to know too: what are his grades?

How does he become like this? Did he exhibit violent and ultra introverted personality when he was 3 years old? How was he taught?

What kind of family did he live in? Did he get attention from his parents? Did his parents neglected him while busy running that dry clean shop?

Ok, perhaps we should not blame it all on the parents. He himself needed to figure out how to interact with others. After all, we don't live in an island all by ourselves and we must learn how to work with one another. There are and will be people you can't get along with. It is ok. Don't have to kill them all. Killing even everyone in the campus still does not change the fact that the rich still drives Mercedes and drink vokda and cognac. He should think of a better solution to class discrepency. His killing-a-few-dozen-and-himself is a poor solution. So having done all that he didn't solve class imbalance, just causing incredible pain to victim's families and perhaps his own.

The saddest part of this is: he can get guns. With a knife and a hammer he can probably only hurt a handful.

He had too twisted thinkings. But did anyone care about him? Of course he think not. Of course it is hard to care for someone who can't communicate. Did he feel loved? Of course he did not feel loved. He did not even love himself. There should be at least a few individuals that love him: his family.

Parents please give kids a warm home. Talk to them. Try to understand them please.
No one with a good family in a right mind would do something like this. Oh wait he didn't have a right mind.

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